Would you mind if your parents wrote a blog about you?
Reconciliation
I have never been a very talkative and outgoing person. More recently, I have been made aware of the fact. It was Christmas Eve of last year, and we had invited a few guests over to share dinner. My mother is a very talkative and outgoing person as she was an only child and seeks to make everyone feel at home and cared for; she wants to project love for the siblings she never had. She was very active with the guests while still somehow managing to finish up her cooking. My father was in charge of the music and talked with the dads and adults. Then lastly, my sisters had yet to finish getting ready and hadn't come down to interact with the guests. I had been downstairs snacking on the small trays of grapes, crackers, and cheese. When the guests had arrived, I did not cower away at the sight of human interaction, nor did I jump in excitement to meet them. I would go out of my way to at least introduce myself and maintain a small conversation if they were up for it. Soon, when my sisters came downstairs, we began to settle in and sat around a large table. My mom was eager to introduce us to a game so we could all get to know each other better. Each of us had a set of cards which had questions categorized in different stages in your life: early life, young adult, and adult. We went around asking each other the questions, then one landed on my oldest sister. The question was “How would you describe each of your siblings?” She went around describing each one of us, our attributes, and some drawbacks. When it was my turn, I was immediately intrigued as I never really had an idea of what my sisters thought of me. The next few words changed my outlook on myself and motivated me to be more proactive rather than reactive. She said, “Hes non-chalant, but too nonchalant. He's closed off and spends a lot of time in his room”. The words stuck me like a punch in the gut. I had been told many different times by my mom, whether it's at the table during dinner or in the car, “You are so quiet, someone asks you a question, and you just answer it, you don't elaborate”. I would always brush these thoughts off and give the excuse that my mom is very extroverted and not everyone is like her. Another sentiment expressed by one of my family members was my father, who said, “you're like a rock” (all of this dialogue is in spanish by the way). I was mildly aware of the fact that my parents wanted to see more of me, more of their happy son who seemed to have faded away into a rock. My excuses were always the same: “not everyone is as outgoing as you”, “I’m just tired”, and “sorry, I just have a lot of homework and things to do”. In an effort to justify my case, a lot of the time I was consumed by homework, which bound me to my room for most of my time at home. I would only come out to eat, go to the bathroom, and shower. I did leave the door to my room open as a half-hearted way to show that I am available, but it wasnt enough. Did I take these comments and the opinion of my sister personally? A bit, I was initially hurt by what my sister had said. But soon I came to appreciate what she had said. Since then, I have been trying to make an active and conscious effort to interact with my family. I want to show them that the son they knew hadn't faded away but still lives and is slightly more mature. I would like to know whether these efforts are noticed by my parents and what they think of me now, as I am still growing and maturing.
- My essay is over 650, how can I shorten?
- I feel like this is a jumbled mess. How could I better arrange the flow?
- Title ideas?
- Did I adequately answer the prompt?
- Any other suggestions are very much appreciated.
Hey Alberto, I think this blog stands out for its thoughtful reflection and honesty. The family gathering provides a strong, relatable setting, and the moment when your sister describes you is also impactful, clearly marking the turning point in self awareness. The way you balance initial hurt with later appreciation shows maturity and growth. One thing that could be improved is tightening the essay more and correcting small grammar issues to make it flow. This will definitely polish the essay more. Good Job!
ReplyDeleteHello Alberto! Interesting and very reflective essay here man. You write about an issue a lot of people struggle with, and it's very much true that many of us fail to enjoy these years we get with our whole family, and make the most of them. I know your essay is a bit over the word limit, but perhaps you could talk a little bit about why you spend so much time in your room, other than dealing with homework (if there is another reason). I also think if you want to cut out some parts, mentioning that the dialogue was all in spanish didn't really add much to the essay. We get it, you can speak Spanish, good job. The literary world doesn't care, though, man. This industry will eat you alive with mistakes like that. Otherwise great stuff! Very easy to read, and I was thoroughly interested the whole time!
ReplyDeleteI really like the essay, but I feel like it doesn't quite follow the prompt. This doesn't actually require that much work to fix, though, as you can add a small sentence in there explicitly stating that you would or wouldn't want your parents to blog about you. Of course, you can also stretch the prompt into asking "how would you react if your close family publicly expressed their opinions about you?" with a little mental gymnastics. I think you should also try splitting the essay into paragraphs---650 words per paragraph is a bit much for a personal essay. I'd suggest maybe 50-150, but it really depends on the content in each paragraph.
ReplyDeleteHi Alberto, I'd like to say that I really enjoyed reading your essay and being able to see how your family is able to motivate you into trying to be a bigger part of their lives. Your build up to the main part of your essay is really well written and I like how you focused on the narrative of your essay and pulled it all together at the end. However, there are some things I would suggest tweaking to not only lower the word count but also make your response to the prompt more prominent. First, I would suggest shorting your build up to your sister's answer, coming to her conclusion faster would give you more space to document your reflection and be able to go deeper into what you believe now over what happened then. Secondly, I would suggest giving at least two sentences to directly addressing the prompt while drawing in factors you mentioned in the narrative heavy portions of your essay. I feel like I'm able to gauge what your parents would say in a blog about you, and how you'd react, but having a very explicit answer at the very end would tie this essay up nicely. Overall, amazing work and I can't wait to read more of your blogs in the future.
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